Social Media never ceases to impress me. Despite the many negative points of social media the positives keep on making me want to put a bit more faith and trust to it. While scrolling through my Instagram I came to a very old yet an interesting thought that started ringing bells in my head and compelled me to write something about it. It was- The grass is not greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it. We all have heard this phrase since we could make a little sense of things and yet the meaning and the scope of this sentence keeps on increasing! It can be used to understand so many different aspects of life that it makes me want to go more in-depth of my understanding of- ‘The grass is greener where you water it’.
Why does grass appear greener on the other side?
We are social beings and we respond to what we see on the surface almost instantaneously before making sense of what’s what and that’s what makes us believe that the grass is greener on the other side and don’t think if we watered our ‘grass’! We share every good moment in our lives, be it relationships or achievements and successes, don’t we? So does other people and seeing something that they might have better, sparks envy and jealousy in us that makes us believe that the good thing is just handed to them. We fail to see the years of efforts that have been put into their very thing that we are jealous about. The messy efforts behind the happy moments of joy and success are most often buried in the hearts and minds of the person who is bearing the sweet fruits now.
Another very reasonable reason for the grass appearing greener on the other side is that we are humans- the smartest beings on earth! If we weren’t striving to be better each day, even though sometimes the reason is comparison and envy, we would still be living in caves! We work hard each day and even though we are doing our best, in a world with 7 billion people, there are bound to be people that seem to have something better than us. It is also correct that they might have something more than us, but we should always remember that to maintain it they are working hard too.
Flip-side of grass being greener on the other side!
Gaining satisfaction in life can sound very easy to achieve but in practice, it is the hardest thing to do that has been achieved by very few people on Earth. The constant feeling of ‘little more’ is what drives us to be better each day. That also includes feeling that other people have more than you are, or are happier than you are, in better relationships or luckier than you are. But we never give it a thought that for some people we might be ‘that’ person who has something more. Maybe our lawn has greener grass according to their standards. This can help us conclude that it’s our standards that make us feel dissatisfied in a certain way. Certainly, these feelings can drive us to do and be better but they are a fuel that is burned too soon with several pollutants left in our brains and hearts. Instead of believing that other people are better and more fortunate than you are, you should strive to be better than you were the previous day and that can only be done if you stop believing that good things will just fall on to your lap just like it has fallen for ‘other’ people. If you do want to focus on the grass on the other side, try to drift your attention to the efforts that went behind maintaining it to produce the lush field that you are envying right now. Without the efforts, it would have been a barren field that you wouldn’t even think to look at before turning over.
Why is grass greener where you water it?
Life can be very easily understood if correlated with nature; this is the reason this statement can easily explain the complex workings of life. Think of all the things that go on in your lives as gardens (your jobs, relationships, businesses, studies, etc.). You need to look after yours, water it regularly, weed it, throw in fertilizers and pesticides and it is after a long wait that you start to see grass sprouting and showing signs of life. Also, every garden will have a different set of blooming flowers and grass according to the type of seeds and hard work that have been put at the beginning. Now, suppose the neighbouring garden starts to bear grass earlier than yours. What do you do then? You can either throw everything away and wallow in the misery that your garden doesn’t have grass and that’s it’s your misfortune or you can simply focus on yours keep on watering it and see the wonders, even though they are a bit late.
Everyone has their own pace of growing and moving ahead just like every kernel starts popping at different time. You can just sit and expect to see results just because somebody has experienced it earlier than you have. The grass will be greener soon but it will happen only when you water and maybe someday you’ll feel that your grass is greener than your previous standard, but you’ll probably have set a higher standard by then. That’s the way life works!
You are the only person that can control how you move ahead in life. You can create opportunities for yourself, you can be attentive and better to have a better relationship, or you can work harder at school or college or better results. Everything you want in life is under control if you are willing to do the work that is needed to achieve it.
The Bottom Line
At last, we should know that there is always someone out there who is better that you, who is doing greater things that you are and who have already than things that you dream of. It doesn’t mean that you have to sit and wallow down in your misery thinking that you are something less or they are just fortunate enough to have them fall on their laps. Just keep working, quench the thirst of your dreams and desires with your efforts and hard work and one day you shall see how much you have evolved and what a piece of art your garden is. Let us say it together once again-
Grass is not greener on the other side; it is greener where you water it!